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Facebook and the Invisible Fake Man

sdfsdfdI made this profile picture for Facebook after a tortuous process of needless stupidity from them.

Don’t think for a second that just because you’re using a real name on social media, especially Facebook, that your account can’t or won’t be suspended, without notice. In one second, you’ll vanish. Your wall won’t be visible, your messenger won’t work, and all of your years of pictures, messages, and information will vanish. It will then be up to the whim of some anonymous functionary to decide your virtual fate.

(By the way, yes I know that it’s free. Having said that, I would pay a fee for using the service if I had more control of how the site works and uses cookies and other tracking tools. I would also enjoy the benefit of being subjected to random and subjective rules, implemented haphazardly and without recourse.)

It happened to me. Even though my name, X Teri, is authentic, it didn’t help me. Back in 2007 when I set up my Facebook account, I had to fax/scan my driver’s license and birth certificate to them. It was a pain in the ass back then, but I did it, figuring it was the cost of having an interesting name. The accepted my IDs and I went on about using their service.

Periodically over the years, I’d get a notice saying some drooling conservative -or family member – had anonymously reported me as using a fake profile. I’d send the same stuff to Facebook and the complaint would obviously be fixed, all without causing a massive mess.

This time, however, Facebook rendered my account invisible and locked me out. They told me “they’d let me know.” It didn’t matter that they had all my identification from all the previous anonymous issues. They didn’t check. They didn’t check to see that my own personal website was listed on my “About” profile.

I was lucky. My account was gone for about  a day. In the interim, I found out that many people couldn’t even get past the sign-up page with their legal names. People with 1 letter in their names, or even 2 letters, couldn’t sign up. This is a huge impediment to many groups with shorter names. It’s also a terrible business decision. You can demand that people use their legal names – but you can’t deny them access and then fail to offer an appeal or secondary process to help them.

Last year, when Facebook stepped into a quagmire with the transgender crowd, I watched as the company stumbled around, trying to figure out how to quiet the riot while simultaneously continue to abuse people’s identities.

Identity is a subject I know a great deal about. Privacy is another.

Again, I learned from Facebook’s fumbling of this issue. I doubt they did, however.

Hello, Tuesday

1324-1244037821esKOPerhaps the best way to affect change is to laugh at the absurdity of the rules. A writer I know told me that this is what I should be doing more.

Shiloh_Church_in_Springdale,_ArkansasIn light of the Duggar scandal, a homage for Josh?

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I love the Obama quote. You can use to tell people why they shouldn’t ask you to be quiet, too. Although I’m not sure it’s better to know how ignorant they are – as the silence of someone idiot being quiet is much more relaxing that the silence you already expect.

LinkedIn – User Beware

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Boring LinkedIn Privacy Reminder #16…

Among my things on my list of weirdness is the tendency of some to scoff at mundane social media, or complain about how invasive it is. Meanwhile, their LinkedIn presence looks like an open invitation. LinkedIn is a great service when you understand what it is used for. But you have to spend time understanding the privacy controls and how to use it safely. Otherwise, you are leaving the keys to your life on the doorstep for any idiot to stoop and pick up. And when an idiot like me tells you to be careful, you should listen. LinkedIn is a place for professionals and those are exactly the most valuable to people trying to gain access to information.

I wrote a lengthy, detailed description of how people are using LinkedIn without a clear idea of their objective – and then trashed it, because people don’t listen. Many people have a mistaken idea about what LinkedIn is used for, what it does for them, and whether it is safe in the way they use it. Even though no one reading this will really believe they aren’t careful, the reality is that I found a wide array of privacy lapses up and down the spectrum from LinkedIn users. The information is often useful enough to help serve legal papers, steal your identity, clone your account, gain access to your email, and do all manner of nonsense to your well-being. I try to remind people that privacy takes work and even then it fails miserably. It’s one thing to be unaware and unable to control your privacy, another to broadcast it yourself. You don’t really have privacy, but you should consider making people work harder to invade your life, if that sort of illusion is important to you. LinkedIn can be a valuable tool if you know what you’re using it for and how to control what it allows others to see with or without your consent.

Did you allow the company to access your private contacts when you set up your account? Almost always a bad idea, but most do it. Do you have two-factor authentication active on your account? If not, this is a direct invitation to have your life stolen from you. (If you don’t know how 2-factor authorization works, stop using most services that rely on real information about your life until you do). Did you leave active the setting that notifies you (or broadcasts to others) each time someone makes a change to their profile?

How about your privacy controls? Without being logged in, why should I be able to google your LinkedIn profile and see a very new picture of you, where you live, and your career? Yes, I’m talking to you, the person who worries a lot. Your picture is on the internet, right now, telling me where you are.

People who scrutinize and worry themselves to death about other social media such as FB blithely forget or ignore how important it is to restrict access to your life. With FB, you can easily fake it if you were so inclined. But with LinkedIn, you are bombarded with the necessity of being meticulous and detailed. In other words, please make sure that you have laid out your economic and career identity and then forget to watch your account controls.

If you are going to use LinkedIn, please treat it as a gateway to your real life, because that’s what it is, even if you’ve forgotten that the door is sometimes left wide open. User beware.

When I posted to this idea to social media, I had one person comment on the post and another send messages, concerned. The person messaging couldn’t believe that I could actually “see” all their information. I had to do screenshots of their private information and forward it to convince them. They were angry, as they were certain they had been studiously careful when setting up their account. My conclusion to them was to assume that companies can and will randomly change privacy settings and to be on guard for it happening.

P.S. It is worthwhile to have someone else “look” at your presence on important sites, attempt to logon to your services and so forth. Not only to see what is visible, but to gauge whether something has changed without you noticing.

Thoughts

beautiful-rainbowSometimes, the most insidious meanness is clothed in silk and topped with a gracious smile. “I don’t celebrate sin,” I read in yet another “I’m all about love” misdirection. By stating that homosexuality is “sin” and ignoring all other obvious sin, you are in fact not so cleverly doing what you claim you are not: calling the LGBT crowd ‘Lesser.’ It’s judgment no matter how you fight the term. (I don’t mind that you judge because I don’t play by the same rules that you do.)Don’t do the LGBT crowd any favors: they don’t consider themselves sinners and they don’t appreciate people who smile and hide their judgment as a refusal to “celebrate sin,” as if homosexuality is on the same level as gossiping or divorce. The Christian Bible was darned hard on several sins, none of which seem to be as interesting to the morality crowd.

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Monday Musings In PIctures

office-buildings-moscowDo you even have to ask if I’ve ever done this!?

fantastic-sceneryThe above picture probably addresses many of the issues you have with the older generation in your family.

trash-canI think I should start a website, on which catalogs all the stupidity of our finer specimens in society.

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4-Leaf Clever

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The quote in the above picture is from one of the sharpest minds I know. Like many good quotes, it is not so much the content, but the unexpected spirit implied in the words. Clever.

red-eye-detailA tongue-in-cheek comment.

power-button-on-tv-remoteI wrote both the Emmys and the Academy Awards and recommended this new category. Shockingly, neither bothered to even send an email telling me which lake they would prefer me to jump into. ‪#‎miniserious‬

JRMVRB8682I wrote the above in response to a particularly nasty conservative being unremittingly hateful on social media. It was a big hit.