We All Suffer From Bias

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You probably know those people. The ones who believe that the planet is only a few thousand years old. Or worse.

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I recommend that you watch a television show called “Brain Games.” Similar shows have aired before, but “Brain Games” presents the same barrage of cognitive bias and observational issues in a non-confrontational way. While not presented with a religious agenda, it should open your eyes to the myriad ways we all have blind spots. It reiterates time after time that we all suffer from cognitive biases that we aren’t even aware of. I know I do. I’m constantly telling people: “We are all wrong and stupid, just at different times. If we were all dumb and wrong at the same time, the world would probably stop on its axis.” Our overconfidence in what we “know” to be true is one of our biggest enemies. I try to remind myself that my opinions should change with new information – and to be open to reasoned, logical evidence.

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It’s not a question of intelligence. It really isn’t. Attempting to convince them of data is futile. Until they see the connection between flipping a light switch and electricity reaching the bulb, they won’t get it. If they are climate change deniers or believe in homeopathy, you aren’t going to convince them with direct evidence. Their refusal to see is a shield and testament of their faith. Instead of wasting your time futilely attempting to get the illogical ones to change their outlooks, focus on people of faith whose belief systems encourage critical thinking and a stewardship of our planet and each other.

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Working to get some people to see the light of the real, practical world will only anger them and cause a backlash. You have to let them believe all sorts of things – even things that seem patently absurd to you. Many of them erroneously think that all theories are equal and that the scientific method is no better than creationism. No amount of evidence is ever going to open their eyes. Stop fighting them. They will always be present. It’s whack-a-mole. You are only angering them, even if they don’t directly confront you about it. Many people hold angry grudges toward those who are confident in their beliefs, whether scientific or religious.

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We all have our peculiar ideas, cognitive biases, and stubbornness to adhere to ideas that simply aren’t true. Some of them rise to the level of idiocy, it is true, but remember that all of us are born ignorant and through a series of educational opportunities, we learn that our planet revolves around the sun, racing across vast expanses of space, and that DNA is our genetic blueprint.

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Let other people be stupid. Even if it hurts. Perhaps they can show you the same courtesy. I know that you’re thinking that you don’t have any ideas that are stupid. But others think you do and they are judging you based on their conviction that some of your ideas are ridiculous too…

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You’ll turn on the television today and see people saying all sorts of stupid, unscientific things, arguing against basic human decency, proposing that we fight another war, or use our resources toward profit instead of improving our human potential. Your social media will be stuffed with crazy talk.

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Resist the urge to argue or lash out about it.

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Asa Faubus / Orval Hutchinson

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The current debacle relating to the Religious Freedom Restoration Acts being passed in the United States is revealing many people’s authentic side. It is incredible to watch mostly Men With Bad Haircuts justify these laws, screaming that they need them in order to be able to practice their particular religious beliefs. As far as I can tell, they are mostly just angry because they are being forcefully reminded at every turn that their opinion is not the  law of the land – and that history is judging them harshly.

Their arguments are horribly disguised attempts to establish theocracy in government and society. It’s going to backfire and cause a backlash that will achieve the opposite result. The LGBT aren’t diabolical – they are just trying to live as normal people. Gay marriage might offend a few fundamentalists, but it in no way diminishes other people’s ability to live their lives as they see fit. But it does hamper the fundamentalist tendency to attempt to dictate to everyone else what we can do.

We live in a secular society wherein everyone is able to believe and practice their religion. It’s unfortunate that people don’t realize that few people agree on what exactly their religion preaches. Even among evangelicals, there is a huge disparity. These laws can be just as easily used against those who think it provides them discriminatory ability. Which religion do we choose? Which denomination or brand? Which tenets of faith?

I made the Orval Faubus and Asa Hutchinson picture to demonstrate the idea that history will not be kind to the people who endorse bigotry, whether it is against the LGBT community or other groups. It’s a mistake to disagree with civil rights issues. Barring an establishment of a theocratic society, everyone pushing for these laws is going to be judged with a harsh eye in years to come.

A Personal Note About Everyone’s Health

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Worrying about centralized control of healthcare is one of those things that doesn’t occur to me to worry about. Each of us should have access to adequate medical care. If this means that some of us lose choices in the bargain, in reality it means that those who are poorer will have fewer choices – the wealthy will continue to afford healthcare characterized by greater access and flexibility – and that is perfectly fine. We are all paying indirectly for those without adequate medical care now, whether we agree with it or not. Our current system isn’t going to fix any of those problems. A shift is going to occur in our focus, whether we wish it so or not. Economics and limited resources are going to continue to push us toward a different way of helping each other with medical care.

If you can pay for greater flexibility, who am I to stammer and complain about it? It’s my hope that people with greater means focus on gratitude toward their health, or the ability to afford treatment anytime that it is needed. If you have a good life and the ability to help the rest of your society provide basic access to everyone else, I think this is one of the best civic undertakings you can aid. Instead of focusing on the potential for abuse or the unfairness of having to pay for other people’s care, please focus instead on the idea that you are doing your fellow human beings a great service. The future is uncertain and economics can swing against your fortune most inopportunely. While I can’t say with certainty that we don’t need another fleet of billion-dollar jets, I can say in good faith that a lot of people in Northwest Arkansas and elsewhere need better access to healthcare. As a society, I think that basic healthcare is something that we should be willing to pay for. If it means that infrastructure or defense priorities decrease for a greater investment in people’s health, I’m ready to vote for it tomorrow.

When I go to the doctor, I don’t expect or demand to be treated by a specific doctor or worry that my care will be less. I’m assuming that my insurance and healthcare system is looking out for me. I would gladly give up choices of my own if it means that people have any access at all to medical help. I’ve been lucky so far in my life that nothing catastrophic has happened to me. It’s happened to people I love, a few times with no warning whatsoever. I know that the pendulum of misfortune can hit me – and anyone else even when we do everything right.

No matter how well you live your life, spend your money, and make personal choices in your life, tragedy and circumstance can befall any of us. Whether it is pancreatic cancer, stroke, kidney disease, heart disease, or any other life-altering illness, I would want each person to have access to healthcare, even if it is unable to be paid for. Anyone needing it should have the medication necessary to sustain their lives. I want it not only because it could just as easily be me one day, but because it is the right thing to do. Thinking about everyone’s healthcare is one of those things that future generations will be astounded about when they look back at us and question our priorities.

Going forward, I think it is only fair that everyone who knows me understands that I believe each citizen should enjoy universal access to medicine, even if they can’t pay for it. Doctors, nurses, and other necessary medical professionals should be trained without concern for paying for their education and training. These professions, among others, need to be designated as “public good” and encouraged with our resources.

While any system governed by bureaucracy would certainly have significant pitfalls, I’m ready to see us prioritize our healthcare system in such a way as to encourage and reward those who choose it as a profession – and find it in our collective hearts and conscience to help anyone who needs medical help without looking first into their wallet.

Life Is a Hotel Resort

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If you can imagine that your entire life is just a short stay in a resort hotel, you will be less likely to clutter and hoard your life – even with “valuable” keepsakes. Living like you live in a hotel resort requires you to live deliberately.

If you have strong religious beliefs, it should be easier, in theory, to put this into practice, as you are a soul housed in a bag of dust, waiting for your metamorphosis back into dust. Piling up stuff isn’t your focus in life, or shouldn’t be.

If you can imagine that random natural events can easily wipe your hotel room off the map, it will be easier to realize that your focus needs to change. You can simply go to another hotel resort and have a similar experience. Even though a real hotel resort stay is short in duration, it is the attitude of not being attached to the stuff that allows you to enjoy yourself. Imagine being able to carry that attitude into your everyday life. You might argue that hotel resorts are expensive and that is usually true. But weighed against the total cost of your house, car and all your amassed stuff, the cost isn’t as comparatively high as you first imagined. Keeping all this dumb stuff is expensive too, both in terms of what is spent and more importantly, how much of your life is wasted moving it, cleaning it and worrying about it.

If you go to a friend’s house and look around, you’ll note that in most cases the hidden stuff is actually quite a bit more than you will realize. You’ll also note that most of the things that the friend holds dear are nowhere in sight. They are piled in a drawer, in a closet, in the attic, or in a closed room, out of sight. If they aren’t  routinely seen or touched, are they then really meaningful to the owner? I know that you are going to argue that not all people are guilty of this; again, you would be right. But I think you would nod your head in agreement in general with the tendency. Our homes should be exclusively focused toward our comfort and enjoyment without much thought toward presentation for other people’s eyes. I’m convinced hoarding would decrease if we all did this and it would probably allow more people to be less stressed in their lives.

In a hotel resort, you want to be comfortable, having “just enough” to enjoy yourself and time spent there. You don’t own it – but you don’t mistreat it, either. At your house, you buy carpet that you don’t really like or even want, which you then have to maintain, usually at greater exposure to hidden dirt and allergens. You become more worried about the spot on the carpet than on whether you wanted the stuff in the first place. Your focus then turns to concern about the presentational resale value of it and whether it would affect your imaginary future potential to sell the house based on the presence and style of carpet.

At at hotel resort, you don’t have a closet full of “extra” towels. You have enough. You don’t have separate dishes for special occasions – each meal is a special treat in itself. Why isn’t this the case at home? I could go on with a hundred examples of this sort of foolishness. But it is our mindset almost without consideration.

Profanity

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On a personal note, most of us have had those moments, especially on social media, where someone notices or comments on words being used in posts, whether we hit “like” on a Facebook post containing “bad” words, or “favorited” them on Twitter, or whether we ourselves have used words which someone finds objectionable. I have a wide mix of friends, from the entire spectrum of educational ranges, including both devoutly religious people as well as atheists. We all know how our internal filters challenges us as we reveal ourselves to the world. Do we worry about the words we use? Is the possibility of someone thinking less of us because of the words we use – or “like” passively – going to censor our own comfort zone? I’m tired of being concerned that I’ve interacted with someone who has chosen to use profanity in social media.

For the record, profanity per se isn’t controversial for me. Much of the content generated by opinionated people is going to contain a huge variety of language, warts and all. I watch a lot of television and movies containing profanity. It would never occur to me to avoid it solely due to language content.

Like most things, “profanity” is truly in the eye/ear/mind of the beholder. For the purposes of this, I’m mostly referring to the spoken or written word. Flip a coin – it’s just semantics. For some, “ass” is a word carefully used, while others use the vocabulary of a naval veteran and no word is forbidden to them, even on social media.

It’s not a question of sin, whatever and however you define it. We create the words, shape their meanings, and give them power. Try as you might, adding an element of morality to an issue involving mainly social grace and etiquette is a disservice to language and weakens any attempt to clothe it in religious ideology. Puritans who cry at the mere idea of cursing fatigue me. There is no innate sin to be found in profanity. Words are substitutes for feelings, thought, and ideas and no better or worse than the feelings, thoughts, and ideas they represent. Profanity exists because we have decided that it does and under what circumstances it might be acceptable. That’s just my opinion.  I wouldn’t go into a roomful of children and start reciting Pantera lyrics, nor would I deliberately punish your eyes and ears with inappropriate words.

Profanity exists in some form in every language. And it always has. It must be fun for someone!

While in certain circumstances profanity can add necessary emphasis, I can’t stand unadulterated profanity, the truth is that people who rant on and on about profanity and its unpleasantness are sometimes more vulgar to me than those who curse sparingly. Those who curse unceasingly are guilty of of excess and a lack of creativity – that irks me, too.

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(As an aside, I’ve also seen a lot of mean behavior coming from those who get angry when they are exposed to profanity, however they define it. I’ve seen some real violence coming from the objectors, aimed toward those allegedly doing the offending. Being able to label words as profanity has given some people the illusory ability to demonize or judge their counterparts.)

While I always try to be mindful about over-indulgent cursing, the truth is that profanity adds character, spice, and accent to many conversations. (Sometimes it is effective at ending conversations, too.)

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Wantonly cursing around someone who has a genuine dislike for it is not okay, either. There must be a balance between your usage of profane language and the sensibilities, if genuine, of the other person. People who insist on wearing their list of profane words on their sleeves, ever vigilant toward transgressors, should not be given undue attention.

Once you examine the ideas of profane words, you will find that there isn’t a consensus, even among the religious conservatives, as to what words are profanity and which aren’t.

But we will all agree that, in general, swearing won’t win you a Nobel Prize, land you a great job after an interview, or usually lend credence to your otherwise valid argument. I owe the existence of profanity to the schizophrenia inherent in our society. Our vain attempts to control thought and behavior inevitably fail when we extend this reach to language. We will always try, of course, but profanity will also shift, creating new words and unintended “offense” to those who agree to find it.

Profanity only holds the power all of us give to it. No more, no less. It is our fault that such a thing exists, even as a concept.

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I would ask that anyone reading this listen closely to the words you loosely think of as “bad” and think about these words in the context of language. Most people who curse, I’ve found, do so knowing that they don’t really care, they just don’t want it to be noticed by certain friends, family and society. It is an issue of reputation and seemliness. Others, of course, resoundingly denounce cursing in any form, in any setting, for whatever reason.

If I use a word that you find objectionable, I’m not using it to punish you. If I hit like or comment on posts which contain profanity, you are going to have to decide for yourself whether that lessens me as a person or not. It is your opinion and you own it, not me. I’m not going out of my way to curse to draw attention and it in no way should be taken as a personal affront.

Not Enough Time

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“I don’t have enough time.”

“I’m too busy.”

Perhaps valid justifications for not doing things. It’s your life, after all. You don’t owe anyone an explanation unless you want to provide one.

However, each of us has exactly the same number of hours per day. You do have time – it’s just that you have opted to not use it in certain ways, whether you’ve consciously chosen how to spend your days or your life has incrementally pushed you into a fast-paced routine.

All of our minutes are extinguished based on the decisions we’ve made and continue to make. Whether you spend your time watching television, reading, or in the mountains hiking, time is yours to spend.

If your life is complicated and too fast, make it simpler and slow it down.

Sacrifice money for free time. Give up bigger houses (or any house at all) for smaller spaces. Stop doing things that aren’t worth your time.

I know what you are thinking: it’s impossible. It’s not. The first step is realizing that frenetic activity is no substitute for a pleasurable life, one filled with the things that you find a fair trade in exchange for your life’s moments.

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It’s All Dandelions

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I was asked to modify one of my earliest blog posts to amplify the message and remove the extraneous parts. I jokingly replied, “You mean, you want me to weed my garden?”

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I just discovered a cleverly hidden truth, another one of those sublime subtleties that are later regarded as being more obvious than a house cat sleeping under your living room rug: Our entire lives are dandelions. You can tear life up by the roots or relish the power of the spreading bloom.

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Depending on who you ask, a dandelion is either a useful and beautiful flower – or a hideous, annoying weed. If your goal is a nicely coiffed lawn devoid of any spontaneity or color, dandelions are a plague. If, however, you want vibrant color, a naturally-enriching plant that can be eaten, used to make rubber or distilled into wine or even coffee, dandelions are a cheap and lovely way to dot your lawn.

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Life is a dandelion. Whether you believe life to be full of weeds or a masterpiece of wonder, you are correct. It’s all dandelions, residing in the eye of the beholder.

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May you choose flowers!

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“When you look at a field of dandelions, you can choose to either see a field of weeds or 1,004 wishes.” -X

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“May all your dandelion wishes come true!”

Life Is A Shared Cup of Coffee

they put down their cups and walked away to dieEach of them enjoyed their drinks, laughing and sharing time together. Some had coffee, some juice, and others opted for the simplicity of cool water.

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One by one, each of them sipped the last swallow of their beverages (or were called away unexpectedly), said their respective “See-you-laters,” and departed.

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Wouldn’t it be a better world if we could live some of our lives in the same way -enjoying one another in common experiences?

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We all individually put down our cups and leave this place. Some of us finish our coffee while others don’t. But we all put down our cup, not knowing if it will be our last.

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You Are At Least Partially Wrong All The Time

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So much of our lives is consumed by the asinine march toward certainty in regards to religion and faith.

It’s not enough to have our own ideas and moral/ethical structure. We often feel the ominous need to be right about every aspect of it. Lost in the shuffle many times is the idea that we are all on this planet, trapped together in one large societal mix.

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We spend our lives focused on what we ‘know’ to be true. Instead of looking outward to listen and learn and potentially expand our outlook, we treat new information as heresy and a challenge to our own truths. We turn out the lights in our own minds, fiercely protective of our own version of the truth. In so doing, we lose touch with other people, forgetting that they are us. If your faith is authentic, it should never feel threatened by the presence of other ideas or other faiths.

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We spend countless hours reading the same texts and words, seeing the same truth each time. It blinds us to the reality that the texts and beliefs we’ve inherited are flawed. For those who follow Jesus, surely you see the parallel in his life regarding religious authority and the truth he was attempting to seed into the world. Those rejecting his message were utterly convinced of their righteousness toward those threatening ideas.

Even though most religious people can gather in a circle and nod their heads in agreement toward the message of love and compassion, we find ourselves distracted by dogma and the burn toward being right in our specific realm of ideas. We angrily walk away from our circle of believers over trivial things, usually saying something such as “But the Bible clearly says…” even though we know that the Bible isn’t exactly clear on a lot of subjects. We also know that if so many people disagree about what it actually says, we have a problem much different than simple disagreement.

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Religious belief is going to wither further if believers can’t stop focusing on dogma and superiority of belief. None of it matters if you are clouding your own mind and locking out entire portions of the world. Jesus didn’t sit in comfort amongst the believers. He lived in the middle of a practical world.

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As an outsider,  I see daily how crazy it looks to observe someone demean another person for his religion, denomination, or set of beliefs. Just as you look upon someone else as if they don’t have a clue, many people in turn are looking at you, wondering how you arrived at such crazy ideas. One man’s idea of religion looks preposterous to another. That’s the nature of religion. No matter how certain you are of your ideas and faith, trust me when I tell you that a lot of people think you are nuts, uneducated, or irrational. That’s how human beings tend to function.

There is another way, though. Instead of focusing on dogma and what you know to be true, try focusing instead on love and compassion. Helping others with food, clothing, education, and health care. Not being cruel or harsh when avoidable. Never taking advantage of someone. Remembering that your religion demands service toward others before service to oneself. Don’t focus on what someone else is getting for free. Focus on your blessings. Share them.

When you encounter ideas that contradict yours, at least in the religious sense, don’t assume the other person is lesser than you for their religion or god. Resist the urge to label them as uneducated, inhumane, or stupid. Their religions sustains them just as yours gives you a meaningful and powerful way to relate to your world. Grant them the same initial respect of humanity. Doing so will not lessen your dedication to your faith in any way. It will train your heart and mind to be receptive to everyone in your path.