Category Archives: Psychology

The Farthing Place

I wish I had coined this phrase.

It’s a psychology label for our tendency to go to the wildest possible scenario in our minds when we don’t have adequate information.

Some people might refer to it as the grandmother tendency. If we’re traveling and don’t let them know we made it home safe, they might actually convince themselves we’re in a ditch upside down while the car is on fire.

Most of us do it, especially the overthinkers.

I will defend the tendency slightly. As someone who literally had a plane crash on my residence, among other surprises and tragedies, I’m not foolish enough to believe that the worst-case scenario does not, in fact, happen with some frequency.

One reason I like this term and label is that it allows me to tag it mentally when I get a feedback loop in my head and can’t shake it. Identifying that it’ś happening is the first step toward managing it.

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Punch

“It ain’t about how hard you can hit, it’s about how hard you can be hit and keep moving.”

I won’t cite the famous mind who said this because it’ll detract from the obvious truth.

I would add, “… to expect a life in which you don’t get punched in the face more than once is among the worst illusions. Don’t expect not to get punched. Expect to be able to shake it off and have the ability to keep a slice of optimism in your heart.”

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An Obvious Truth

An Obvious Truth…
Looking back on the trajectory of your life, personal or work, you’ll notice that things that drive you bonkers tend to continue being bonkers. The Serenity Prayer is applicable to your situation. Acceptance – Courage to Change – Wisdom. The ideal method juxtaposes the first two components: change YOUR attitude or put in the work to positively change what drives you bonkers. The wisdom portion sits at your feet when you realize that these are the only options to be happier. The world and the things you don’t like will continue on as they always have. Take the time to practice your mindset or put on your work boots and make changes happen. All of us get stuck in the complaining or dissatisfied mode needlessly. We have the erroneous and frustrating idea of what-things-should-be. The rain doesn’t care if you’re wet and the world is entirely comprised of your perception of it. How do I know? Because there are happy people who remain happy even in chaos. It is their mindset, entirely under their control, that shapes it. Not the other way around.Love, X
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Inappropriate

How people define inappropriate depends on the person’s point of view. Most couples tend to have clearly defined boundaries and expectations. But only those who are with their ideal partners can openly and honestly discuss their feelings when one of them goes over the line.